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Here at University of Harmony in Harrow, London, we update you on the latest details about the various developments in our line of work through our blog. We also upload videos about our pre-marriage mentoring and relationship counselling services. Read our blogs below


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A good marriage takes discipline

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Invisible viruises of the heart

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Live Free and Unashamed

Posted on January 26, 2020 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (18)

Live UNASHAMED AND FREE

 

Living unashamed and free is when as a believer you are no longer embarrassed by your past nor humiliated because of your scars and past as when one is in Christ he or she is a new creature. The woman at the well encountered Jesus, her past no longer mattered but she began to testify of the person of Jesus (the Gospel-John 4:23 - 24).

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You may have been through some shameful situations, made mistakes, have some scars from the past but arise unashamed today because Jesus has paid the price of all you owe. Live unashamed. Recover your voice today, recycle yourself , reinvent yourself and live Free in Christ. I will advise you: be intentional about it because Jesus deliberately went on the cross to destroy all that had limited and kept you in bondage. From today, I prophesy you shall no longer be ashamed, humiliated, embarrassed or silenced. From today walk in boldness wherever you find yourself. Say: I am unashamed and free. You have lived in shame, felt shameful enough. Lived without a face and a name. Time to live large and audacious

Wow. See a Rhema I was just reminded of: Mark 2:27:

 

"I am born from the realm where there is no time to a world (realm) of time, not to be subdued by time but to be a master over time" Bill Winston

 

Tell everything and everyone that has mocked or ridiculed: I refuse to be ashamed because Jesus has set me and whom has set free is free indeed. The time for you to live in shame is over. It is time to live free, unashamed and large because Jesus broke the power of shame.

 

Freedom is God’s idea. Living free and unashamed started in the garden of Eden. Genesis 2:25. It is God’s intention. According to a French Philosopher, Jean Jacques Rousseau “Man was born free but everywhere he is in chain”. Shame and worry are Joy stealers But Jesus the restorer again came to set man free yet a lot of people still live in captivity of shame, addictions, worries, wrong choices. Shame saps you of motivation and joy. You need to be intentional about being free and unashamed as well. Jesus is here to free you. He can and He will.

 

God asked us to raise people who have no reason to be ashamed, women and men who will no longer be humiliated and embarrassed by their past, mistakes or their circumstances. These are people freed by Jesus from shackles of darkness they are not ashamed of who they have become in Christ, people who are not ashamed to stand for Jesus, people who are not ashamed of hooting and routing for Jesus. People unlimited, and who will never shy away from the Gospel of Jesus Christ- “For the Gospel of Jesus is the power of God unto salvation”. People who will embrace the truth

God is about to unleash women and men unhinged to turn the heart of The world to God. Women whose focus is on the joy that they will experience at the end of the age. Are you ready? Do not be ashamed because you feel hopeless or helpless.

 

If you a woman or man reading this and you feel overwhelmed by issues, or you have been through some real stuff and you are unashamed of the scares then you are the real deal. Say, I am the real deal.

 

Quit beating yourself up because you’re not where you thought you’d be. You’re not a finished product. God is still working on you. You are not defined by what other people say about you or by the issues you have been dealing with. A king died for you. Do not lose your swag. You will laugh again. After all your life is not about people’s expectations but Jesus. It is about your freedom, being free, living tension-free, accepting freedom Jesus offers and freeing yourself up to LAUGH AGAIN. It is about you and Jesus right here. Leave here today unashamed.

 

Isaiah 50:7. For the Lord GOD helps Me, Therefore, I am not disgraced; Therefore, I have set My face like flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed.

 

Today, open your heart. You will leave here free, victorious, learning how to Live Large, unashamed and contented.

The world and our society says you should be ashamed because few years ago you were abandoned by that man, you served a prison sentence, you did something dumb they say how dare you smile, your home was possessed, you are still renting and your church is too small how dare you step out.

You may be reading this and you feel as Mara (bitterness) but God will change your story and give you a new name, Naomi .

Today is the day to recycle yourself, reinvent and recover your voice, your true value and your worth.

No more shame - Jesus is a shame destroyer. He came to take away our shame. He is here to turn your life around

Say this loud and mean it: I am unashamed because I have been set free, I know the Truth and I got the GoodNews-Jesus the Gospel.

 

May be you are reading this but you do not have a right standing with God, God is still interested in you. He is not mad at you. No need to be ashamed. It has all been paid for in full. Just open your heart and invite Jesus in and be dead serious about it. It is as simple as that.

 

Break up the old glass with which you are looking at yourself. God has not discarded you. He has not given up on you. He is here to rescue you, you are loved. Break the GLASS. Break your ALABASTER BOX. GOD WANTS YOU TO PRESS IN. BREAK OUT. GIVE A BIG SHOUT THAT WILL EMPTY YOU OF THE DEPOSIT OF SHAME INSIDE.

 Isaiah 50:7 says: For the Lord GOD helps Me, Therefore, I am not disgraced; Therefore, I have set My face like flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed.

 Four strong reasons why I am unashamed

A. Because God - the all -sufficient one is my father, He is my unwavering, dependable, reliable helper / He does not play mind game or hide and seek with me. He is so real to and with me.He helps me in the past, in my present and has promised to do so in my future.

 He helps me when I go through challenges, that time I need £10, when everything looked as if it was over and I had my back against the wall, when in front of me was valley and behind me was joblessness, hopelessness. Because He helps me I always overcome, I always make it, my needs are provided for, favour follows me. God is my back up, my backbone, bedrock, my cornerstone, bank, insurance, consultant, my covering. Shout Hallelujah

 B. I am unashamed because I wait on God, I wait for His timing, I wait for His own kind of change. All the days of my life shall I wait until my time of change comes. His own blessing, His own approval.

“For they that wait on me shall not be ashamed “ - Psalm 25:3

 C. He carried my shame on His Cross. I am God’s child - I am unashamed because I am not deluded but I carry God’s power that saves the world. Romans 1:16

 D. I sought and looked unto Him, He heard me, delivered me from my fears - Psalm 34:4,5

Shame will tie you to your past. You are receiving freedom today, you are liberated, unashamed and free. An unashamed woman/man is confident.

 I pray that whatever the enemy has packaged for shame will never locate you and yours in Jesus name because it is written that the rod of the wicked shall not rest upon the lot of the righteous.

How SWOT can help your marriage

Posted on June 25, 2017 at 4:45 PM Comments comments (66)
SWOT is a business framework that businesses employ to understand their value and to plan for the future. Just as swot analysis is good for any business I believe that it can work if fully harnessed for your success of your marriage.

SWOT stands for: Strenght, Weakness, opportunity and threats. Understanding of these framework will help your family to weather any storms.





Do you love someone for what they bring to the table alone?

Posted on June 7, 2017 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Nobody should be loved only for what they bring to the table. As a couple, you can love genuinely. Relationships should be give and take. If your spouse is only taking from you it is not a balanced relationship. If you notice that people flock around you only when you have something to offer without adding to you, I will recommend you review such relationship and have a chat with such if you can otherwise pull away. 

As a couple never sit back expecting only your spouse pour into you. If you discover you are doing so much without receiving much in return, pray for God to open his or her spiritual eyes to understand what they are doing wrong. If you wish to have further chat on this why not book a session with me using the contact page.

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Do you want to be a Super Wife or Super Husband?

Posted on June 5, 2017 at 4:20 AM Comments comments (0)


So you want to be a Super Wife or a Super Husband? You have desired a good thing and it is possible. A super husband or wife is not the same as perfect man or woman I must warned you. So I hope you are not desiring to be a perfect woman. I recommend you keeping seeking for ways to walk with the Holy Spirit towards perfection in Christ Jesus. Two greatest secrets I will share with you are simple: 1.Learn never to be bitter with your husband or wife again. 2. From today treat your wife or husband exactly how you expect him or her to treat you. Click on the video below for detailed secrets on how to be a Super Husband or Wife. 

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STOP PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE TO BE BLESSED ONLY!!!

Posted on June 1, 2017 at 4:10 AM Comments comments (1)

Yes, I said that. Stop praying for your husband to be blessed only. A lot of wives have prayed their husband's into wealth and out of Godliness. When your prayer is focused on material wealth the spirit of materialism and worldliness such as flirtation, unfaithfulness, uncaring attitude and recklessness will be unleashed and the man is most likely to become very carnal, very materialistic and greedy. When all you pray for your husband is to be blessed this is what happens: your husband is likely going to throw himself into money making which indirectly will impact on His relationship with God, his life style and his relationship with you.

'Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world — the desires of the flesh, the desires of the eyes, and the pride of life — is not from the Father but from the world - 1 John 2:15 -16. A lot of you may relate to this as this resonates in many homes today. There are many homes where there is good wealth, the man can give the woman whatever she desires but she does not enjoy the presence and commitment of the man. Of what use is it that your man gives you all but himself? His money and wealth belongs to you but his heart belongs to his business, wealth and strange women. Yes, he is materially blessed but he is spiritually bankrupt and unable to offer you his affection and love. You have been praying wrongly and your perspective is wrong. Change your perspective today. Stop asking God for blessing whenever you hit the floor to pray, rather pray and say, give me the power to seek your kingdom. When you genuinely do, all the blessings and wealth will be at your beck and beckon!

May I recommend rather that you START PRAYING THAT YOUR HUSBAND BECOMES CHRIST-LIKE - selfless, loving like Christ, caring like Christ, forgiving like Christ and giving like Christ. When you pray him into oneness with Christ the fulness of the Godhead is reposed in him. All the blessings of God follows him automatically: wealth, good health, goodwill, prosperity, fame etc. When you start praying aright things may begin to look out of joint. You may begin to notice more negative things in your relationship. But quit forcusing on those negatives. God is flagging them up because He wants to deal with them. So that when your home is delivered you will be able to give thanksgiving in perspective. God will give you a better perspective today in Jesus name. Focus on the amazing things God is about to do in you, through you for you and your husband.

If you continue the way you are praying the danger is that your husband may come into sudden blessing unprepared, unprocessed and unbroken. The result will be pain, abandonment, frustration, trauncy and he starts hanging around deceiptive women and men. In such condition lust, pride, and fleshy recklessness will kick in then your anguish will be magnified. But that is not the mind of God concerning you. All the blessings and successes you dream about for yourself and husband are all hidden in Christ - Proverbs 13:22

Pray your husband to be become a Jesus man; uncompromisingly righteous and all his desires and intentions  pure and righteous. That is the true blessing right there. Get his eyes on Jesus and Jesus will release the hidden treasures and secret riches of the earth such that has never been handled by any other to your husband -"I will go before you and make the rough places smooth; I will shatter the doors of bronze and cut through their iron bars. "I will give you the treasures of darkness And hidden wealth of secret places, So that you may know that it is I, The LORD, the God of Israel, who calls you by your name.…Isaiah 45:2-3

Today stop praying: Lord, bless my husband / wife; rather pray God to quicken your spouse to die to himself or herself and alive in christ and you will watch your home flourish and blossom. I pray that God changes your perspective. I pray that your desire for your husband or wife will be for them to manifest God's glory and His kingdom. 

The God Factor in your Marriage

Posted on May 26, 2017 at 12:20 AM Comments comments (0)

 THE GOD FACTOR IN YOUR MARRIAGE - we shall be discussing this on one of our June editions of The Pastor's Wife Talkshow and full analysis on THE CHEMISTRY OF MARRIAGE

According to Friedrich Neitzstch, "It is not a lack of love but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages". Any marriage can survive and flourish if only couples pursue the God factor in their homes without living Him out in the pews on Sundays. Most couples look and act amazing on Sunday as if dramas are being played out. But how many couples continue such harmonious displays during the week? The reason may be because most people live a lie and they try to make impressions and fail to continue their partnership with the Holy Spirit outside church settings where no one else sees them but God sees. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE AT CHURCH BUT BE AS MUCH SPIRITUAL AT HOME AS YOU ARE IN CHURCH. BECOME A NEW YOU through the Spirit. When you walk closely with the Holy Spirit, He teaches you true love, quietness, peace, helps you refrain from anger outbursts. Without the Holy Spirit you cannot forgive easily because the power to forgive genuinely is supernaturally impacted by the Holy Spirit.

Should our Lord Jesus Christ visit your home unannounced will He be proud of what He hears and sees in your home?

Proverbs 14: 1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands ( through bickering/ argument)

Your home should not be a war zone but a sanctuary where crisis and pressures of life are replaced with love and tranquility. I once asked a young man what his marriage expectations are: his first response was; I want to marry a woman who will give me peace once I come back home for which I responded; then you need a Jesus woman but you also must be a Jesus man yourself .

"Every woman wants a man who will protect her BUT a woman should not tear apart a man she expects to protect her as well ". I agree with the saying that "It is better to lose your ego for whom you love than lose who you love because of ego". So much has been preached about women building their home but the duty is not limited to women only. In Matthew 7: 24-27, Jesus thought us that men should also build their homes on rocks. What are rocks? Actions and words that build up and not the ones that hurt or tear down such as harsh words, abusive words and actions or threatening.

24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”

When there is the God factor in your home, you learn to love the way Jesus loves, forgive the way He does and treat each other as we expect others to treat us.

1. From today make things happen for each other.

2. Allow each other to still enjoy their individuality.

3 Intentionally do unto your spouse that which you expect him or her to do for you

4. Walk in the Spirit and you will be amazed how you over look those petty things

I am of the opinion that joy and happiness cannot dry up in your home if Jesus is persistently present - Is Jesus a guest or resident in your home?

OFFENCE WILL HURT YOUR MARRIAGE- REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT FLAWLESS YOURSELF!

5. Bullet-proof your marriage in the place of prayer. In fact, YOUR MARRIAGE JOURNEY SHOULD START ON YOUR KNEES AND SUSTAINED IN THE PLACE OF PRAYER

6. What is your FAMILY SWOT - strengths, weaknesses, opportunities to grow and threats (common enemy) - stop hanging on to old wounds but embrace new doors God is opening for both of you.

7. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you find out the triggers in your home and address them. What are the triggers? Find out from my book: THE CHEMISTRY OF MARRIAGE available on amazon.

8. Love is practical. God demonstrated His love for us. He did not just theorise it. He acted it. He sent Jesus. He gave us Jesus, He forgave us, He reconciled us to Himself. What are you doing to your spouse that is God-like? What practical steps will you take today to make your relationship more romantic, more peaceful, more successful and more of a team work? What are you doing to become friends with your spouse today? With God all things are possible!

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Posted on February 26, 2017 at 1:50 AM Comments comments (0)

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The Marriage Mirage or fantasy

Posted on February 16, 2017 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)
What is a Mirage? Google describes mirage as an optical illusion caused by atmospheric conditions, especially the appearance of a sheet of water in a desert or on a hot road caused by the refraction of light from the sky by heated air. That reminds me of the saying that the grass looks greener on the side. A lot people's idea of marriage stems from what they see on tv or newspapers and fairy tales - prince charming and his princess had a happily ever after... That is a mirage and fantasitical.
Couples can experience fun, happy times most of the times. The truth is that couples encounter challenges as well that has the tendency to tear them apart. No marriage is exempt from this. These challenges could lead to bitter arguments stemming from minute to big issues like, career, sex, finance, third parties, careers or attitudes. But with hard work and tenacity, these marriages look like made in heaven.
I know young ladies who get excited :lol: when they see pictures of couples looking loved up but shudder at any slightest argument between couples. What they forget is that couples are two team players with diverse ideas! Again, a lot of people think that marriage is about kisses and hugs only and keep dreaming of someone who will daily sweep them of their feet at the door. The truth is that a time comes when responsibilities increase and the relationship will no longer be centred on kisses and hugs. 
Similar to this is that a lot of ladies always think that that eligible, handsome, tall and well educated man in their church or work is their husband and at times they can begin to have dreams about him and end up waiting to wake up from the dream for many years only to see or hear him marrying someone else








  

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